Just as a good relationship can have a positive impact on your life, stressful, draining, or imbalanced relationships can have negative effects on your health and well-being. It’s common to maintain a relationship because we feel the other person needs us or we believe that they will eventually change. We may also be afraid of hurting the other person or feel insecure in our ability to find new relationships. But knowing when to end a relationship and acknowledging that the pain will pass can often prevent greater pain and feelings of loss in the long run.
If you’re in a relationship that isn’t satisfying or one that has become unhealthy for you, rather than spending energy attempting to fix the problem or complaining, ask yourself what you really want from the relationship. Consider whether the other person truly considers your feelings or if they are willing to change their behavior. Ask yourself if you’ve often thought about ending the relationship or if you feel your bonds have atrophied. While every relationship has ups and downs, when there are more downs than ups or the two of you are bringing out the worst in each other, it may be time to sever the connection. Be honest with yourself and your answers, even if the truth is painful.
Relationships thrive on honesty, communication, mutual caring, and time spent together. When one or more of these elements are missing, it may be that the relationship, no matter how passionate, simply isn’t worth it. It’s far better to end a relationship that doesn’t feel right than to hold on to it and languish in feelings of anger or resentment. Moving on without struggle, on the other hand, can be the door that leads you to a more nurturing relationship in the future.
I
did it. I told her all the things I needed to say and I let my friend
go. What am I telling the Universe when I constantly bail someone out of
trouble 5, 10, 100 times? What does that tell anyone about what I
think about my own worth?
I decided that she is
the only
person that I ever talk trash about and I didn't like myself anymore
where she was concerned and I didn't like that part of myself...so I
killed it. I had to kill it so that I could create the space for more
magic to happen. I want love, joy, magic, dancing, and support. I
wasn't getting any of
that from her. So I opened up the space for someone or something to
help me create what I want. The Universe has been showing me pieces of
what is possible if I could just learn to trust myself so I took another
huge step. I'm putting it out there that I am ready to start
cultivating the life that I truly want. I'm not scared of it anymore.
I want a life of peace. I want time alone to rest and
recover but I also want time with the people that love & support
me. I want to create art and music. I want to dance wildly and sit
under the moon. I want bonfires and long conversations. I want to
learn to love myself from the inside out and I want to share the beauty
of this experience with others. I want to teach yoga and learn to hold
space for others. I know that I am opening myself to vulnerability but I
want to learn to be okay with not always being the strong one. I want
to know without any doubt that it is okay to be beautiful. I want to be
able to look into the eyes of someone that loves me and believe them
when they say that. I want to look into the eyes of someone that loves
me and not be uncomfortable when they say that. I want to let go of the
hold that guilt has over me. I want a rocking chair front porch and I
want people to drop by. I want to create a place of solace within my
home. I want to learn to love my husband with my whole heart.
Ok now that I've typed that out..that is some serious work I have set out to do on myself. Whew!
